Showing posts with label LOVE. Show all posts
Showing posts with label LOVE. Show all posts

Sunday, 7 April 2019

I Love You All..


I Love You All..


My dear readers. I apologize for the long absence that I took from my blog. I believe you might have missed my posts but I can say one thing sure that I did missed you all. In this post I will try to explain why I took a leave of absence.


  Since last two years, many things have changed in my life. Many new events took place and I have started a major new journey in my life. Since that journey has started I am constantly thinking about all the changes it is gonna bring. I am not having cold feet about my decision, nor I am repenting but it is making me think about many facts about my life. When I started this blog, I was in my 20s, now I am in my early thirties. Still single , still hopeful to meet someone. But i am still single. And this gave me a little bit depression. These all years have been a long journey of unexpected surprises, lots of ups and downs and I did all that for the hope of meeting my life partner, for being what I was supposed to be. But lately, I kinda got tired of this journey of constant events and constantly waiting for someone. When I am gonna meet someone?  And that kinda pulled me down and that is why I was away from my blog. 

I am sorry. I am not crying but just sharing an experience of my life.

Also, during this time I started working on writing short stories. Yes, I am working on my book of short stories based on LGBT lives. As I said, lot of things were happening. 

So stay tuned to my bog. I am not going anywhere.
Love,
Indian Metro Gay

Saturday, 27 January 2018

He Said He Found Me Cute! (blast from the past)

Hello friends. Happy new year. I wish you great  & greetings, greetings & greetings.


You won't believe what happen to me. Just last week, when I was on my break at work, I got this message on Instagram. I opened it and it was small video from one of the guys who used to be a friend of my friends back in India. He sent me a small video as a personal message on Instagram. It was a video in which he was showing his tool and looking at me with inviting eyes. This guy, let's call him Mr. S; used to hang out with the same group of gay friends that I had in India (I would rather call them acquaintances). He was handsome, cute uptight gym going, muscular guy. Even in earlier days, I wished to see him shirtless. But I never thought about him after that. Because of his all up class "Plastic" friends.  He would appear in their all Facebook photos, posts, they were kind of Gay Royalty in my city in India and he was like their dear little brother. I never thought to message him, I was kinda scared of his super loud friends, I was thinking what if I sent him an email saying I find him cute and his friends post that letter on our gay Facebook page and everybody will laugh on me? He was not a troublemaker but his friends were kinda Regina scary, at least I found them that way. That is why when I was in India, I maintained proper distance with that hottie. I think when I was leaving India, around that time I added him on FB, and then last year on Instagram. We never chatted, we were never that close. After moving to North America I got busy in my life, had a couple of boyfriends, dated couple of guys and I totally forgot about him that I ever wanted to see him shirtless.


But then he sent me that kinda hot video. First of all, I was stunned. But then I instantly messaged him back saying,

"S. is this you playing with your phone os someone hacked your phone?"

And then he said, Yes, it is him!

I was stunned!
I said that was a quite surprise.

And then he replied, and then I replied and we started chatting.

After few minutes he said (typed) that he ALWAYS (yes, Always) found me CUTE and have ALWAYS (again Always) wanted to hook up.

Imagine this thing, you always wanted to work in one cool company as a software engineer, you never applied for that job because you knew your resume will not pass even initial screening and if you end up being in an interview, you won't be able to answer any questions beyond initial introductions question. But you wanted to have that job, but you never applied, then you moved on to other country and then you worked in many profiles, many companies and after gaining years of experience, you can think you can get any job, even a job of CTO, then you received the letter in mailbox, which is a late delivery saying they had liked your profile back in time and offered you job as a software engineer but letter or email took years to come to you.
How you will feel?

 But still, I decently replied him saying that I appreciate he saying this and confessed that I never saw him by that view because of his super famous friends and now I would love to get connected with him to chat because my man is super busy and he is the one I can chat in my own Indian language.
Within a minute his video had taken me back in town and pulled out that confused, shy closeted gay guy in me, I wanted to spend some time with that guy, through chatting with S. To be honest, back in India I never saw S as a husband material, I did thought of him as a cute boyfriend material but I stopped that thought right there and moved on.

 That day we exchanged emails saying we will write each other as a friend and said goodbye. But that evening I was thinking that what if S had come to me years back when I was in India and we were in the same city? What if he just had asked me for a coffee date or asked my phone number and started a chat. Why he could not take some action from his side, considering he was more confident back then than me. From my side, it was NEVER a question of taking the first step. In a gossip-filled gay environment, no shy, closeted guy will go and take initiative for a chat with the member of famous gay royal gang. It was like taking enmity with Regina George kind of queens.  I moved on, he is still there. He has grown a beard, looks huskier in that, uploads new selfies every week on Instagram, tags friends on Facebook. There is nothing wrong with that but is that the only thing you have in your life as a late 20 something single gay man?

 I felt bad and angry about him. But then I saw the super cool side of this story. He never approached me, and I remained single and then I moved to the place where I am today. Had I gotten a guy like S back then, I would have never left him and stayed in my same Indian city. But then I would have never found the wonderful, vibrant men that I dated, I would have never found Ryan.  I had never gotten those wonderful days and memories of my life that Ryan gave me.

 That night I cooked a wonderful butter chicken and closed that chapter with that meal.



There is a quote by some cool guy from history saying sometimes NOT speaking up messes a lot of things that speak up. My situation with S was different. If he found me cute and wanted to hook up with me, he should have spoken with me, given me a confidence in him and he had gotten a super romantic boyfriend like me or at least had gotten good lovemaking from me. But he chose to keep quiet. His keeping quite did not slow down my process of moving out, I came here and met wonderful men.  One's loss, one's gain. But I think a cute possibility of making something good out of life got lost by the shyness of two men (yes, me too taking the blame).


So go out friends, speak clearly, speak straightforwardly, ask him for coffee, or drinks, take out him for a stroll or long drive, bring him cooked lunch if inviting over dinner is too early. DO SOMETHING!

Life is not about sitting back, life is about doing things!
With this, I sign off for now.

See you soon.

Love XOXO

Saturday, 7 October 2017

With Who?

Hello Friends.

Happy Thanksgiving Weekend.

The season is changing here. Colors of leaves of trees are changing, wind is getting colder and overall things are getting quieter. We are entering in the new season of Fall here. While surfing on facebook this morning I saw a picture posted by one of my friend's friends. It was a beautiful outdoor, a bench by the beautiful lake and heading saying, "With Who You Would Be Here?". It was an indication of a romantic moment. I tried to think. I thought would that be my recent ex about who I write many recent blog posts? And the thought changed. My inside voice said "NO". "It has to be someone more wiser and mature person".

 And in that very moment, I realized that I have moved on. I no longer miss him I think. I am looking and waiting for a wiser person. This came as a good surprise. Nowadays I am getting more interested in man's qualities than looks. I am more concerned about the inner grey matter than outer good looks. Well, it is a good thing I guess. With the new season, my life is changing, again.

Happy Thanksgiving to all.



Tuesday, 12 September 2017

I think I found something.

As you know that this is a place where I write my life’s story. As a single gay man, now I have been writing this blog and been sharing how’s my single life progressing towards finding someone. So, today I am glad to tell you that I think I have done some progress in my journey. I haven’t reached that destination of partnership yet. I am still single, not seeing anyone. But now I got more clarity about what I want in a man. He has to be believer, golf playing were my 2 previous conditions. But now I have decided to scrap off these conditions and shifted my focus to another horizon.


   Lately I have been watching these TV soap operas from Turkey. It started with a male celebrity crush, then I started watching his TV series and along with him, I not only fell in love with those series but also those people, that culture and that country. Today after watching several Turkish TV series I can say I understand Turkish culture. They are family oriented friendly people and I would love to date a guy from Turkey. I live in city of Toronto which is very diverse and we have many people here from Turkey. I would love to meet a gay Turkish man here and date him.
 
 What made me to this decision is my demand. I am not seeking for a temporary relationship. I am looking for a reliable, long term relationship with a man with who I can start a family and raise kids. I found that Turkish men are very family oriented and I am sure that there would be gay Turkish men in Toronto who would be looking towards finding reliable long term life partner to raise family with.

 Am I open to other nationalities? Yes I am. I am not closing my borders, Turkish man is just a preference. My main long term goal is family. As long as gay man has the same goal, I am cool with it. So then I wont mind where he originally is from.

 What’s so special about this decision? See, I have been doing many things to find a right guy but it did not happen. There is a quote by one guy saying, If you keep doing things you were always doing, you will get same results. That means I will remain single. So why not focus in one direction for some time to see if I get desirable results? I am looking for a happy life. For happy life you need good social life, cultural festivals adds a significant amount of joy to it. Even I am Indian, I can no longer go back to my Indian roots, even if I go it will remind me my horrible past. I don’t want that. Dating someone from Turkey will still keep me connected to East. I want to do this, I want to date a Turkish guy and try to live happy life like they show in Turkish TV series. I am not hurting anyone, I will be honest, loving, caring and dedicated partner. Why not make this beautiful possibility into reality? Turkish TV series has given me some kind of hope and now I wanna pursue the possibility.

Let’s see what happens. I won’t be surprised if after six months I am still single. At least I wont have any guilt inside for not had done anything.

Will keep you informed.

Lots of love.

Your Best Gay Friend.

Saturday, 1 April 2017

Dating Mr. Perfect


Yes my dear friends, you read it right. Today I am writing about dating Mr. Perfect. A guy I dated last year for a while. It's a quite interesting story. This experience was different. This is the same guy that I wrote about in my previous post "New Season - New Turn In Life."

Early summer last year I became fan of famous Indy movie actor and director Ed Berns. I liked his personality and style. I was always a fan of Ryan Reynolds. I like Ryan's face, he is a real handsome Canadian man. So I started thinking how romantic it would be if I meet a guy who look like Ryan Reynolds and has a personality like Ed Burns? That would be like a sugar in milk, like Xbox one with Xbox gold subscription, like an iPhone 7 with Apple Watch and EarPods. A perfect combo you know? I wished for such a guy and got busy in my regular work.

 And then one day on match.com app I stumbled upon one profile. The only picture visible was he sitting on a chair in shadow. Was not able to see his face clearly but something pinched my heart and made me open his profile. I saw his pictures, he was average looking guy, something was telling me that I must say "hi" to this guy. I sent hi, after few days he replied my hi. We exchanged startup conversation rituals ( how is it going, what's ur name?) and started the chat. One thing I noticed about this guy is that this guy was proactive, he was replying my messages instantly and was writing many lines than throwing short sentences. His profile said he is looking to get married and he asked me to meet within first week of our chat. You might think that this guy was appearing despo but he was not. NO he wasn't a despo kinda guy. He was well mannered, well behaved guy. All his communication was showing that he is eager to know me than sleeping with me.  We decided a day, he came to Swiss Chalet near my house and we met over dinner.

 That was a wonderful first date, he talked a lot, we exchanged many pages of our lives. In that meeting I came to know that he is also fan of 80s music and Simon & Granfunkel like me. That was first time I was seeing him in real and I realized that he does not look like his pictures in real. In real he look like Ryan Reynolds and has personality and voice like Ed Burns. Something what I had really wished before. He was a dream come true. I was with a guy who was good looking, good personality, no drama ,mature minded hot guy who was interested in me. He was not like regular fake guys, at least what I felt so. While dropping me home, I was nervous, I did not wanted to appear so cheesy by giving him hug so I gave him hand for goodby shake hand. And he said , common man and hugged me tightly.  He said I am really nice guy and he would love to meet with me again for sure. He dropped me in my drive way and left. I was there still shocked. I can't believed that it happened!

 And so my dating summer started. Ryan ( it is not his real name but let's call him Ryan because he look like Ryan Reynolds) and I texted each other back to back, he added me on Facebook, we talked about our families, his mother sent him picture of her snow filled front yard for me because I like Christmas. We were communicating with each other which is really very rare now days in dating.  He also invited me to his place over weekend. I could not go to his place so he came to my place over a weekend. That was a great afternoon, we started talking and as expected a little bit romance took place. But we did notion any extreme. That evening he took me for dinner at another Swiss Chalet near my house. We had really great time, he talked so much with me openly and even kissed me in public. That is something I had not expected from him, but I liked it, I liked that dashingness in Ryan. I just so wanted to be within more and he too with me. We were having real discussions like grown men. He was so happy and relaxed with me. After dinner he said he will drop me over my place and go home, I asked him to drop in grocery store which was further away from my house and on his way. I told him I wanted to pick up some veggies but all I wanted was spending some time with him. We reached grocery store, this is the place where he kissed me, we said goodbye to each other and he left by saying see you again.

  He left, I was in that parking lot of store feeling stuck, was not able to move, something was holding me there, asking me to call him back. I was feeling suddenly so scared and lonely. Even though I was gonna meet him next weekend as he promised. But I was so scared. Turn out, that's the last time we saw each other.

  In our first meeting or even before that Ryan had admitted that he is getting very busy in office and his boss is doing some stressful things. But after our last meeting Ryan suddenly got busy in his office. So busy that he did not even replied to my texts. He said he got a big promotion or something and that's why he is so busy temporary till X date. After X date he will call me back and we will go to his place in countryside. X date came and went. Turn out that my Hollywood star lookalike had gotten one more promotion and he became more busy and gave me one more date, Y date. Y date came and went, and yes, you won't believe but my great date had gotten one more promotion and had become more busy. And now this time he did not gave me any date buy gave a season. He said in summer he will get back to me. I knew one thing that he was really busy and really getting promotions because he was constantly updating his facebook posts and details. He was not lieing. I really needed to act with patience else I would appeared like a child before him. And that is the last thing I want to happens between us.


Being a mature minded gay man whose heart has been serially crushed, I won't say I love Ryan, I have no expectations from anybody. I would say I really really liked Ryan. He is a perfect man who is not in that downtown drinking scene and has word marriage in his vocabulary. It is so rare to find men like this. I like Ryan because what he is, what he make me feel when I am with him. When I am with him, I feel that event our silence is communicating a lot. He makes me feel heard, he makes me feel needed, he makes me feel complete.

  But being few years older than me, in his backpack he has those few concerns ripped from his previous heart breaks. He will always pull them out no matter what I say and how much wiser I act. He is a big guy now, making a lot of money and that makes this equation difficult from my end. I need to be careful to not appear cheesy to him. I mean, I don't want him to think that I am behind him because he is rich now.  All I can and need to do is wait for his summer to rise. Meanwhile, work on myself, making sure not to  expect anything from him, and not make any plans. So I am doing that, I am going back to school, deleted his number from my cellphone and do not message him on Facebook. I like that guy so much and I won't mind waiting for him. If he comes to me then I will be the happiest guy on earth, but if he not, then this will give me great lesson to me and test. Test to overcome his memories.

 I have dated many guys in my life but never saw a man like this one. This guy is perfect, he is a man. I don't have a perfect boyfriend but at least I have possibility of having a great man as a boyfriend. Sometimes all you need is hope, and that is what he has given me. No matter what come out of this it will not make me sad for sure.

Friday, 27 January 2017

I Am With LUSH !!!!

Hello again,
Today I am writing about my recent shopping. I am not a big shopper but something happened recently that made me to go to the mall and buy that product even if I never had used it before. In fact it was first time in the advertisement I heard about that brand. I am not into those creative, handmade soaps, but this ad made me buy their soap. 

The brand I am talking about is LUSH, it is a brand of handmade soaps. Recently they came up with the advertising featuring gay and lesbian couple and people just loved it. As per I know it was first time they came up with this campaign showing gay couple and people liked it. For me it was a heart warming experience. Seeing that cute gay couple on the advertisement of such a big brand made me felt recognized and welcomed. So today I went to the mall and brought that lovely soap!

Here I am uploading picture of that cute couple and also uploading picture of my shopping bag :)
Even though I am single, that ad gave me kinda hope in my heart. May be one day soon I will also end up in bath tub with my husband. Details of that news you can find here.

Lots Of Love.


Image courtesy - Lush


Thursday, 26 January 2017

Midweek Graphs & Charts (1)

Hello there my lovely readers.  I am doing something new on my blog. Now on I will be posting graphs and charts of gay life stuffs. In the mid of the week I am posting some awesome stuff about things that I felt in the format of formal charts. I hope you will like it. Enjoy it!
Ciao!




Sunday, 18 September 2016

New Season - New Turn In Life.

 This is a month of September and here in Canada we have a Fall season starting. I always loved fall because of its colors. In this season suddenly green leaves turn into Red and Orange. Just a perfect surprise from nature. While enjoying a day to day action packed fun life of summer one day you suddenly stumble upon a tree in neighborhood and find that it hs turned into Red. The Fall is coming. Surprise!!!


 This Fall has not only brought change in nature around me but also has brought many changes in my life. One of those changes are related to color Red. For me color Red is color of Love.  After almost 2 years long hot dry summer finally I am seeing some red leaves in my personal life. :) .  And what makes more surprising to me is this guy is no drama, perfect gentleman. A Man, not a guy.  I am taking things slow with him.  How I met him and all is very funny story.

 Just like advertisements of FMCG products change every 4 weeks, my celebrity male crushes change every 4 weeks. Few years back I got this hot crazy stupid crush on Ryan Reynolds. Then I wished I want boyfriend who look like Ryan Reynolds. Few months back I fell in love with actor and indy film maker Ed burns. I liked his personality, in fact I still like his personality. He appears to be a perfect husband material. So after watching his movies again and again I wished to have boyfriend who has personality and voice like Ed burns.  Just before I saw this guy online, one day while surfing on Facebook I saw this religious post saying your wishes are coming true, comment 'Amen' to accept them. Generally I don't entertain such post but that time something made me to comment on it. I did that and next week I saw this guy on dating site. I said hi to him, he replied and my story started.


 With this post I wanna share this funny story of coincidences. Once I wished to have boyfriend like Ryan Reynolds and once I wished to have boyfriend like Ed Burns. And you won't believe but this guy just look like Ryan Reynolds and has personality and nature of Ed Burns' character Gerry from movie Fitzgerald Family Christmas. If this was less then his voice is also similar to Ed Burns' :)

He is a very nice guy, I am gonna give him time, gonna go slow with him. With him I feel something that I never felt with any guy before. He makes me feel like playing game of Golf with him.  Even though he doesn't play Golf, I am gonna give chance to this possible relationship.

Fingers crossed!

Tuesday, 1 March 2016

Mystery of unknown future..

Mystery of unknown future or should I say mystery of other side?

I do not know that....

Why I am asking this question? It is beautiful Tuesday morning, I am having off, I woke up early, did my tai chi, was having tea and enjoying this beautiful weather and then he came. Thought of boyfriend. Why I do not have a good boyfriend yet? And this time it hurt me. No No No this is not a simple deal for me. I am a guy in my late twenties, I am gay and to be who I am I have done great sacrifices in my life and now when I am in that stage of life where everything is ok I need not to wait for boyfriend. This is what I think.

 To me, what hurt most about not having boyfriend is not that missing fun or love making but what hurt me most is that he is not in my life. he who I love most in my whole life after god. He the one who is my everything after god and there is nothing in this physical world that can be dearer to me than him. Whose even a one single semi smile can make me jump in the sky, who sing "hey dear" can make my day, by looking whom my eyes will lit like thousand candles, bright, happy and with full of energy. I am waiting for him and he is not coming.

 Don't give me advise. This is not my first rodeo. I have done all that meditation, patience, prayer and problem is, it is not that I cannot do it any more but the real problem is what if I do these things for my whole life and he does not come? I mean I am losing my 20s and the way 20s is almost gone in blink of an eye 30s will also go and I am not gonna get a handsome guy as boyfriend when I will be in my 40s. I will be looking horrible then.

 I did so many things to get a good boyfriend, did 16 somvar vrats of lord Shiva, went to gym, took lots of good snaps, enrolled on every gay dating site, went out an "socialized", meditations, visualizations, visions boards, tell me what I have not done?

All it feels like the time is slipping out of my fist as sea sand.  But then I think from another angle. I think that it is me who thinks like it is me who deserves a good boyfriend and I should receive it but what does universe see it as? What does universe has for me? and when? is it now or years laters? or decade or never? philiosophical angles says "chill" and practical angle says"move your butt". Trapped between these two logic I am simple single gay guy thinking about mystery of unknown future.


Sunday, 27 September 2015

Boyfriend is Sunday. Sunday is Boyfriend.

On this sunny Sunday afternoon of Autumn I am writing this post by sitting on couch, overlooking my backyard. Today I am writing this post because I felt something unusual. I just realized that how beautiful this Sunday afternoon is. I am feeling relaxed, I am chilling in this beautiful weather, I am feeling like sunny warm sun rays are cuddling my body fondly. I wont stop myself saying that I am feeling pampered. Isn't it the feeling that we get when we are in love?

     We all have that imaginary vision of would be boyfriend in our minds. We hold that imagination describing how our life would be when we have that cute, caring, loving man in our apartment as a boyfriend. What he would do when we are enjoying Sunday afternoon together in apartment. Laundries are done, lunch is done, we have watched a good movie last night and not glued to Netflix.  We are just enjoying each other's company like body soaking sun rays of spring sun after a long winter. 

  I get all these feeling on sunny Sunday afternoon. I do not have that perfect lovely gentleman in my life who would bring spring in my single wintery life. Not yet. But soon it will come. And this sunny Sunday afternoon give me hint of that future would be thing. 

Although he is not here yet, I know how it will be when he will be here. It will be like a sunny Sunday afternoon.

Boyfriend is Sunday. Sunday is Boyfriend.


Sunday, 24 May 2015

Not Without Muscles - Sad Truth Of Gay Life

After dancing, singing, throughout my 20s when I have reached in my late twenties; with very heavy heart I am writing this post to my readers. Almost throughout my all blog posts you were getting a hint of craziness that I have for being in relationship with super-duper hot hunky good looking guy. I spent my whole life waiting for that guy, when passed college I found various things that I needed to get boyfriend. I always though that good job, decent education, good status in society and and good clothes are all ingredients of good romantic life.It is not false. I worked for these things and I got them but now I am heading towards next most essential ingredient that makes relationship with hot guy possible. It is the thing that I have been ignoring and excusing about for my whole life. It is called having oneself a muscular physique.


 I was never a macho guy. Biking, drinking, smoking and up to last few months playing violent video games and going to gym, these all things were manly things for me. I always felt uncomfortable doing them. Especially that gym and diet freakyness. I am a proud Indian Gay and I cannot imagine my life without love and spicy, oily Indian food. So if I don't have boyfriend then spicy Indian food is my chocolate. I don't wanna sacrifice that. I don't wanna sacrifice my early morning good sleep and go to gym! I would rather spend more time in office and earn more money than going regulary to gym early in the morning by sacrificing tasty food. For me it is as difficult as making love to a woman.

I literally feel like dramatically screaming Nahiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii


But there is an old saying that you reap what you sow. And then there is one more said saying magic starts out of your comfort zone. I have been doing all possible things to get hot boyfriend but didn't got any. I tried to be balanced and "cool" but no one replied my message. I am not blowing my own trumpet but no matter how much funny I sound here, I have my own gentle personality. I am a very caring guy. Girls that don't know I am gay say about me that I will be a very good caring husband. If I love some one then I love him by my heart, body, mind and soul. I will love not only him but his family also, his friends also even his dog also. I am an adarsh Indian gay guy, I have my own little share of sati savitri Indian nari who sees her husband as god! I will be the man that will love him like lover, play with him like his brother and care him like his dad. This is what I have to offer to my boyfriend. but what if me going to gym and gaining muscles is the first step of all my relationship blueprints? What if having a good body is the first and basic thing that requires in gay love life ? I like muscular guys so I will have to be like one of them. Ripped, muscular with hot body.

 They say looks doesn't matter, love is blind but does that really work in today's real world? Technology has hijacked normal human life, emotions and ways of communication. Everything is myth except tangible material things. Then why not having muscles cannot give you more dates, more replies on Grindr and a hot boyfriend? I know what I want, a hot boyfriend and I am not gonna compromise for that. And for that I need a hot body. So I will HAVE To get that. I don't wanna run away from facts. I wanna have good things in my life and if this is gonna get me a kind of boyfriend that I like then I will do it. It will be a slow process but will do. Not for my physic, not for my self esteem, not for sex but for heart.

 I don't regret of wasting these many years of my 20s without working out because at that time I was working on other important stuffs. I had another battle then. But now when other things in my life are settling down I think I can take this project. I don't have option, I have to take this. This is a biggest sacrifice that I am doing for my future love.
Kill me now honey, for you I am ready to do this even.



I don't know HOW Iam gonna do this but I AM GONNA Do this for sure!

Sunday, 10 August 2014

People's Behavior Patterns and Predictions on Dating Sites : Part I

Hi there.

Today I am writing about one very important subject. This topic is more about geeky, algorithmic stuff.  It is about understanding the way people behave on dating sites and how we can predict their future behavior on dating sites.

 How's this related to gay world? This will help us to understand what kind of men response well and what kind of men response to no one. It will also help you to understand class of men from where you are most likely to get your next friend or boy friend from. It can help you to understand how much time he will take to respond to your message, how long it will take for him to be on chat before sharing picture or phone number. What is a probability that given person has fake profile or real one? What is the best time to upload your new cute picture so that it will get you maximum new messages? What words in first line of your profile will bring you more views and what are must avoid words? These all things can be traced down by the help of algorithm and historic data. By applying algorithm on historic data and general observatory data you can make the predictions. These predictions can be tested on small audience and if results are positive then these can be deployed on masses.

 I am sure that I am not the first one talking about all these things. Big companies and social study agencies have already done huge researches and must have cracked down these codes. But out of us how many know those basics statistics of dating demographics and behavioral patterns of people on dating sites?
With this series of blog what I am trying to bring in front of you is basic observations that can be tested, verified by all of you and with your feedback in comments we can understand the basics of this complex geeky side of this dating world. Within next few posts I will be presenting basic observations and points of previous studies conducted by recognized institutions that can be considered as hypothesis. I am hoping to get your positive support on this project.

Keep in touch. See you son.
Love,
Indian Metro Gay :) 

Monday, 4 August 2014

Some relationships teach us some relationships test


I know it is lot of happening out there in mainstream world. There’s a lot of political, economic and psychological unpredictability. These things do affect our normal lives and our relationships. People involved in relationship are the main pillars of relationsip. So their personalities, moods and behaviour does leave direct effect on relation and on the other person involved in it.  If you see around, break ups have become more frequent and inevitable part of everyone’s life. People are leaving their partners, they don’t want to be in relationship why? Reasons could be so many but the main bottom line of those reasons could be they are not happy with what they have and may be they are expecting something different much better partner than they presently have.

  Remember those school days when our parents would meet our teachers after the results of exams and ask them to tell us the scope of improvement in that subject so that next time we will get more marks in exam? I think even in this age we should do this thing. I am not asking to talk to newly become ex and beg to hear flaws but to introspect ourselves and take account of things that came to us in that relationship.  We should ask a question to ourselves that, ‘it is fine now that that guy has gone but how I feel now? Am I still confident and holding myself up?’ ‘Am I regretting?’ ‘Did I put all my best to save this relationship’ ‘Where should I be putting my more focus now? Job? Parents? Health? Savings?’

  They say don’t dwell in the past but these few questions you have to ask yourself. And see what kind of answers you receive from them, positive or negative? 

Few years back in one British newspaper an article came saying after certain number of heartbreaks you get your soul mate. So in this case can we say that these certain heart brakes makes you more mature and deserving candidate in the race of getting “that special one”? If the answer is yes then it can be said that every relationship teaches you something. But also it tests you. Eastern philosophies say that sacrifice is the key base of any relationship. Everyone who is into relationship sacrifices something towards it. These sacrifices could not be monetary only, they are of different kinds.

  Hence while doing these sacrifices a person also swallows lot of patience. Patience is very difficult thing to digest. While doing these all these things slowly you realize that your cycle has turned into testing and the yesterday’s sweet sugary relationship has suddenly turned up into a tricky fragile test of patience, sacrifice and quest of seeking true desire of heart. Sometimes it become difficult, intolerable and you feel like throwing all these things off, get rid of the bond and be free again.  But then guess what ? Suddenly love of life, does something or say something or even look at you with those lovely eyes and all dilemmas and urging vanishes in the minute and all you find yourself on lovely land of love with your boyfriend.

The heart says YES! This is the reason worth struggling for, I can bear thousand bad days in office just to see him in the evening.  I love him and he loves me and I am so happy in this relationship.

The small bond name relationship suddenly become source of living and food for soul and all those teachings earned from introspection and tests given in relationship starts making sense.


Relationship teaches us great thing by taking great tests. 

Friday, 23 March 2012

क्यूंकि मै हूँ ही Simple यार |



तुम मुझे हमारे गे दोस्तोंके सामने अपना बॉय फ्रेंड कहने से रहे
क्यूंकि मै हूँ "Simple लड़का"!
तुम्हारी पार्टीज , तुम्हारी औटिंग्स मै तू मुझे साथ ले जओंगे नहीं 
क्यूंकि मै पिता नही शराब |
मेरी हर सोच पे तुम और तुम्हारे दोस्तोंको है ऐतराज
इसी लिए कहते है मुझे वो सब डाउन मार्केट मिडल क्लास 
और इसिलए सब के सामने तुम बुलाते हो मुझे सिर्फ अपना "जिगरी यार"|


औंटीजी का कल फोन आया था, किसीने उनको तुम्हारे बारे मै कुछ कहा था,
उनकी नजर मैं मैं तुम्हारा करीबी दोस्त और उनका दूसरा बेटा हूँ तो 
तहकीकात का सिलसिला मुझसेही शुरू होना था |
मेरे डेढ़ घंटे के झूठ ने औंटीजी को सहूलियत देदी |
मेरे झूठ ने औंटी जी को खुश कर दिया |
रिटर्न में उन्होंने मुझेही तुम्हे पिंकी से शादी करने के लिए मानाने  को कहा |
काश मैं उनसे कह सकता की मैं तुम्हारा बॉय फ्रेंड हूँ 
पर तुम्हारी मोम को मेरे लड़के होने से पहले मेरे मिडल क्लास होने पर एतराज आता|


लोग कहते है की प्यार मैं अमीर  गरीब कुछ नहीं होता 
लेकिन तुम्हारे जैसे  GUCCI के शुज खरीदनेको 
भले मेरा बटवा हाँ कहे पर मेरा मन नहीं मानता|
तुम्हारे जैसे महंगे i PHONE मैं नहीं यूज करता 
मुझे तो अपना छोटा handset ही बहूत सुहाता |
Handset में apps मुझे क्यूँ चाहिए?
जब तुम्हारा pic मेरे फोन का wallpaper बन जाता 
और sms हर ५ मिनिट में तुम्हारा  प्यार लेके आता?


हमारे दोस्त तो मुझे चिढाते ही रहेंगे 
और तुम रहोगे हमेशा उनके लिए सुपर स्टार 
तुम्हारे पीठ पचे कहते सब अपने मंसूबे, 
तुम्हे हर कोई चाहता हैं करना प्यार |
तुम्हारे गुड लूक्स से सब है घायल, 
जिस दिन हमारे बारे में उनको पता चलेगा तो वो सब हो जायेंगे पागल :)
याद है हमारी लास्ट  डिनर डेट?
सारी लडकिया देख रही थी तुम्हे मुड मुडकर 
लेकिन तुम थे मुझे अपना बिजनस प्लान बताने में मसरूफ
और मै तुम्हारी आखों में हो गया था मशगुल|


तुम सुनते हो अंग्रेजी गाने, मैं सुनता हूँ गाना पुराना,
तुम पहनते हो ब्रांड्स महंगे, मै पहनता हूँ टी शर्ट सादा,
तुम सुनते हो लेडी गागा , मै सुनता हूँ दीदी लता,
मै भी झाड़ सकता हूँ तुम्हारे जैसी अंग्रेजी लंबी
(झाड़ता भी हूँ ऑफिस में पूंछो अपने  पापा से जरा )
हर फ्रायडे नाईट तुम करते हो क्लब में दोस्तों के साथ शराब का नशा,
लेकिन जब तुम्हेरे पापा ऑफिस में मुझे कहते है
"Well Done आकाश! "
मुझे चढ़ जाता हैं जित का नशा |
लेकिन जब तक तुम्हे वो बात बताऊ नहीं
होता नहीं पूरा जित का सेलिब्रेशन|
हम हैं दो अलग छोर नदी के, लेकिन हमारे प्यार का पूल है मजबूत बड़ा |



पिछले १० Valentine's day और १० बर्थ डे के ग्रीटिंग्स आज भी मैंने है संभाल के रखे
मैंने गिफ्ट कि हुई सिल्क की टाय तुमने तो खो दी |
तुम्हारी फरमाइशे , नखरे  और attitude को भी मैंने है बहूत संभाला 
लेकिन नहीं सभाल पाया वो दिन जब तुम थे सिर्फ तुम और मै था  सिर्फ मैं|
जब हम करते थे पढाई मेरे घर पे, चाय पीते थे शाम को छज्जे पे|
छत पे बेठे तारे गिन गिन रातको करते थे ढेर सारी बाते|
करते थे हर बात शेयर समोसे के साथ, गाते थे दोस्ती वाले फ़िल्मी गाने|
तब नहीं था पता हमे हमारा असली सच, लेकिन कुछ नहीं था झूट हमारे बिच |
नहीं छुपाते थे हम एक दूजे से, नाही दुसरोंसे हमारा रिश्ता |
तब थे हम अच्छे दोस्त, सिर्फ हमारे प्यार ने इसे आज भी बनाये रखा|


लेकिन  अब लगता हैं मुझसे ये नहीं होंगा |
बहूत झूट हम दोनोने है बोल लिया |
बहूत कर लिया मैंने अपने आप ओ अद्जुस्त तुम्हारे लिए
अब तुम भी मेरेघर में आओ जरा
छोड़ के अपने दोस्तों को डिस्को में आओ कभी मेरे घर पे जरा
बेठो मेरे सामने रात भर और पूरी रात सुनो मेरी शायरी जो मने तुमे देख कर लिखता आया हूँ अब तक| 
छोड़ के अपने ग्रीन टी, मेरे साथ फिर से चाय की चुस्किया लगाओ जरा |
छोड़ के अपनी  Diplomatic बाते, करो मुझसे गुफ्तगू जरा|
छोड़ दो कुछ दिनों के लिए अपने महलको, मेरे साथ मेरी जिन्दगी भी कभी जियो जरा |
क्यूँ  नहीं कहते तुम हमारे दोस्तोको सच हमारे बारे मै ?
क्यूँ  नहीं दिखाते सबको वो tattoo मेरे नाम का?
क्यूँ नहीं करते तुम झूट से परहेज? जब रिश्ता हैं सच हमारा |

तुमसे कर की इतनी लम्बी बात, नहीं करूँगा तुम्हारे reply की expectation,
मैं पागल ही हूँ जो करता हूँ तुम्हे इतना प्यार |
करता था करता हूँ और करता रहूँगा तुम्हे प्यार |
क्यूँ की मै हूँ ही  लड़का बड़ा simple यार |