Guys on Dating Apps.

Shifting Phase of My Gay Life!

  It was not long ago when first time I felt this feeling. I found it pretty unusual when friends on facebook of my age were continuously posting pics of their every moment. I (& they) were 26-27 then. But then after a year I started loosing interest in Facebook. AlthoughI had so many rocking weekday events and dates with sexy guys I was just not that much motivated to put every moment of that time on facebook through pictures. And then I dated this handsome guy. Even one pic with that hot guy would had created 100s of likes on my facebook time line but I did not post that. I was having fun with him, romantic dates and hot sex but I just did not felt like posting that part of my life on facebook.

I am not saying that I became discreet or double standard. No! I am still that proud Gay man with brain of teenager. I have lots of things going on in my head. There are so many gay thing that I wanna speak 24 *7 all the time. But these things I cannot speak on facebook because I have family friends and cousins added in my facebook profile and I don't want to come out to them and my parents.  Also, on facebook I cannot say that "OMG! I so much Love Stephen Amell! He has body like hot stud wanna feel like grabbing it!" No!  All I can say there is "It's Sunday again, looking forward to watch Arrow tonight. XXX YYY (that girlfriend of Oliver Queen, I still don't know her name) is gorgeous!" I hate it.

 Even my all gay friends on Facebook keep posting posts like these. They pick some famous action violent movie or tv series in which guy is ok looking and people say gal is HOT and they posts on facebook something that will make people believe that they are big fan of that book, author on what that movie / tv series is based upon and this guy has that high intellectual taste. They could be having that genuine taste but which gay guy would genuinely notice that gal in movie (and then fall for her) if the leading guy is so jaw droopingly, deliciously hot?

 Common guys, gimme break!

All I think when I read their posts is this gif.

And then those lonely  souls who try to fill the emptiness of heart by spending time with their so called close buddies (read as sisters traveling in same boat). Every moment every activity has to be posted on facebook and have these "friends" tagged in it. Why would a gay man between age 25- 29 would constantly feel this urge of posting pics on facebook ? If they spend those evenings dating new guys from apps (apps that they always see as tacky but have their own faceless pics upon) they might meet a wonderful guy.

 The whole purpose of these guys' life is to put every activity on Facebook. So that people will like it and then they will feel complete. I know that everybody love to spend their time the way they want. People feel good when they have like minded people around and with them they can talk about anything but Fcaebook is not place for that. Like I gave example of Stephen Amell above, I cannot post those things on Facebook. But I have Twitter for that. And a fake id. Through which I constantly tweet about my male crushes and ongoing observations of gay life.  I don't get involved so much on facebook and irritate others by trying to prove how cool I am. I rather go out and meet people in person. I meet people from different backgrounds and age. I make friends with them, like real one. This evening I was in a hospital, paying visit tom one of my best friends who has no Facebook profile, he is funny, self proclaimed cinema critic, sommelier and great cook.

 I like this way, I met really cool guys and real men. Like men they show in suits commercial. None of them were on facebook and I got to learn a lot from these alpha males. Their style, their discipline their way of communicating was way different, top-notch and aristocratically adequate. These men are not on facebook, twitter or instagram coz they spend their internet free time surfing stock updated from their blackberries or searching new exercise plan from their iPhones. These are men every one must date once in life. I like hanging out with such gay men now rather than spending time on facebook clicking Like on some pompous, always smiling "friend".

   I like such kind of men now. Smart, calm, balanced. These men are great listeners and share a lot through well crafted small sentences. These men are passionate for their life, devoted to career and health. And this devotion gives some unusual rare charming allure to their personality and aura. These men don't talk on phone, they just text a plan of weekend and when you meet them over beer in patio and they start talking. They are someone like Oliver Queen, Harvey Specter or Bruce Wayne.  I like these kind of friends now.

                       
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 A friend who you can trust, rely upon and talk about anything.  If saying this makes people think that I am old then let them think that. I know that I am not old, I am just maturing. And as long as that chaotic tweets posting teenage brain is concerned I would call it teenage heart.


I am Happy About This New Phase Of My Gay Life :)

One small request to my readers.

Dear friends,

Thank you so much for giving me a huge love through your daily visits to my blog. I really appreciate the time that you are spending on my blog. It also make me feel good that you find my blog interesting and hence you visit here again and again. Thank you so much for your love dear readers.

 Today I have a small request for you. At this stage of writing I would love to know from you that what exactly you like about my stories, what are the scope for me for improvement and what kind of stories you would love to see here. If I get your feedback guys it will not only help me to present  you more engaging stories but it will also encourage me more to write.

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Thank you so much once again for all your love and thank you for your valuable time that you spent reading this post.

Love,
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Boyfriend is Sunday. Sunday is Boyfriend.

On this sunny Sunday afternoon of Autumn I am writing this post by sitting on couch, overlooking my backyard. Today I am writing this post because I felt something unusual. I just realized that how beautiful this Sunday afternoon is. I am feeling relaxed, I am chilling in this beautiful weather, I am feeling like sunny warm sun rays are cuddling my body fondly. I wont stop myself saying that I am feeling pampered. Isn't it the feeling that we get when we are in love?

     We all have that imaginary vision of would be boyfriend in our minds. We hold that imagination describing how our life would be when we have that cute, caring, loving man in our apartment as a boyfriend. What he would do when we are enjoying Sunday afternoon together in apartment. Laundries are done, lunch is done, we have watched a good movie last night and not glued to Netflix.  We are just enjoying each other's company like body soaking sun rays of spring sun after a long winter. 

  I get all these feeling on sunny Sunday afternoon. I do not have that perfect lovely gentleman in my life who would bring spring in my single wintery life. Not yet. But soon it will come. And this sunny Sunday afternoon give me hint of that future would be thing. 

Although he is not here yet, I know how it will be when he will be here. It will be like a sunny Sunday afternoon.

Boyfriend is Sunday. Sunday is Boyfriend.

Not Without Muscles - Sad Truth Of Gay Life

After dancing, singing, throughout my 20s when I have reached in my late twenties; with very heavy heart I am writing this post to my readers. Almost throughout my all blog posts you were getting a hint of craziness that I have for being in relationship with super-duper hot hunky good looking guy. I spent my whole life waiting for that guy, when passed college I found various things that I needed to get boyfriend. I always though that good job, decent education, good status in society and and good clothes are all ingredients of good romantic life.It is not false. I worked for these things and I got them but now I am heading towards next most essential ingredient that makes relationship with hot guy possible. It is the thing that I have been ignoring and excusing about for my whole life. It is called having oneself a muscular physique.


 I was never a macho guy. Biking, drinking, smoking and up to last few months playing violent video games and going to gym, these all things were manly things for me. I always felt uncomfortable doing them. Especially that gym and diet freakyness. I am a proud Indian Gay and I cannot imagine my life without love and spicy, oily Indian food. So if I don't have boyfriend then spicy Indian food is my chocolate. I don't wanna sacrifice that. I don't wanna sacrifice my early morning good sleep and go to gym! I would rather spend more time in office and earn more money than going regulary to gym early in the morning by sacrificing tasty food. For me it is as difficult as making love to a woman.

I literally feel like dramatically screaming Nahiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

But there is an old saying that you reap what you sow. And then there is one more said saying magic starts out of your comfort zone. I have been doing all possible things to get hot boyfriend but didn't got any. I tried to be balanced and "cool" but no one replied my message. I am not blowing my own trumpet but no matter how much funny I sound here, I have my own gentle personality. I am a very caring guy. Girls that don't know I am gay say about me that I will be a very good caring husband. If I love some one then I love him by my heart, body, mind and soul. I will love not only him but his family also, his friends also even his dog also. I am an adarsh Indian gay guy, I have my own little share of sati savitri Indian nari who sees her husband as god! I will be the man that will love him like lover, play with him like his brother and care him like his dad. This is what I have to offer to my boyfriend. but what if me going to gym and gaining muscles is the first step of all my relationship blueprints? What if having a good body is the first and basic thing that requires in gay love life ? I like muscular guys so I will have to be like one of them. Ripped, muscular with hot body.

 They say looks doesn't matter, love is blind but does that really work in today's real world? Technology has hijacked normal human life, emotions and ways of communication. Everything is myth except tangible material things. Then why not having muscles cannot give you more dates, more replies on Grindr and a hot boyfriend? I know what I want, a hot boyfriend and I am not gonna compromise for that. And for that I need a hot body. So I will HAVE To get that. I don't wanna run away from facts. I wanna have good things in my life and if this is gonna get me a kind of boyfriend that I like then I will do it. It will be a slow process but will do. Not for my physic, not for my self esteem, not for sex but for heart.

 I don't regret of wasting these many years of my 20s without working out because at that time I was working on other important stuffs. I had another battle then. But now when other things in my life are settling down I think I can take this project. I don't have option, I have to take this. This is a biggest sacrifice that I am doing for my future love.
Kill me now honey, for you I am ready to do this even.

I don't know HOW Iam gonna do this but I AM GONNA Do this for sure!

People's Behavior Patterns and Predictions on Dating Sites : Part ll

.......And Then He Sopped Messaging

Hello friends, I am back. As I said in last part of this series of post ( predictive behavioral patterns), today I am writing about the topic of guyz' behavior that will make you interested in searching upon.

It must have happened with you that you came across a nice guy on social networking sites. You liked him, he liked you and then you started chatting. Everything was matching, you were perfect match. You were chatting with each other everyday, he showed you his emotional side, you shared your secrets to him. Everything was fairy tale kind of perfect and then one day he suddenly stopped messaging you.

 Suddenly he started acting like a stranger, as if he never met you before. He ignored your all messages, suddenly became very busy in work place and developed enough problems, enough cousin's weekend visits to keep you away from him. He just disappeared. This is not a very normal thing. I mean this is happening a lot in gay sphere. You will often meet guys who will tell their share of same experience. It is really heart breaking thing. I mean when at one side you are dreaming to get good life partner and on other side if you keep meeting such kind of people you are gonna lose your nerve, your patience and your willingness to find relationship. 

Why it happens that when that guy is really enjoying your company, he is happy then he suddenly turns away and stops messaging. There must be a strong psychological reason behind it. I am not psychologist to know about it. So I wont comment on saying why it happens. But I am analyst, I work with data, so I would comment from that point of view.

Now days many dating apps have that indicator in person's profile showing how frequently that guy replies to messages or how much your and his personality/nature match. So just like this, why cannot apps show that after how many days of chat this person is most likely to go silent? 

I am not saying that apps should scan their messages and by scanning that data they should predict this result but by observing one person's visit & search pattern they should be able to predict this figure.

 For example Mr. B is that man who disappears after starting good chat. One 1st January Mr. B came to gay dating site for searching cool guys on gay dating app. Then he found my profile there. He kept coming on that app to exchange messages with me. On  Jan 10 we shared our numbers on that dating app. And then we started chatting on phone side by side. By Jan 20 we were so much into texting each other on phone and by Jan 20 our visits to gay dating apps were dropped. After chatting and talking with me over phone till 28th Feb he suddenly stopped messaging me. His last message was sent on 1st March. He kept himself away from dating apps for few days and one day, 15th March he came back on dating site and started visiting profiles frequently. 

 So in this imaginary case Mr B was on dating app for 20 days and then he went away from dating apps for 38 days and at same time some other guy showed same behavior (that was me) and then again after 38 days Mr. B came back online. In this guy's case 28-38 days was the period of his interest in me.  If this guy is showing same visiting pattern over the period of time then 28 days is a time till he will be interested in a guy for chatting over text.

I don't want to go on non-analytical debate here, I mean don't wanna spend time on discussing questions like "no, what if the guy he was chatting with was wrong". I don't want to talk about other possible reasons because I am specifically talking about a behavioral pattern where person suddenly stops texting with no reason. So let's stick to it.

I think it would be a great tool for people on dating sites if they understand this factor of person they are looking online. It will help them to understand what should be the speed of their communication.

I mean, if I knew that that guy was gonna turn statue after 4 weeks I would had never skipped my best friend's birthday for the special date he arranged for me. In fact, I wouldn't had replied to his "Hello there" in first place.

I Am Back

Yes Guys.

I am back to the blogging scene.

And this time I am free. I mean actually free. I am blogging from Freedom.

Now I am blogging from North America. Every word I am typing on this post is word of freedom, security and proud. Oh my god, it is taking me while to find these words, words that I lost after living in darkness of fear for so long time.

Between the life of uncertainty and life of hope, between the life of shame and life of pride, I have chose the pride and hope.

And with this hope I am gonna spread a lot of happiness in your lives.To all those gay men from countries where it is illegal to be gay; I wanna make them believe that love is always possible with hope.

Life is all what we make of, life is a dish made out of ingredients we choose.
SO fill all those tasty flavors in your life.


Love,
Indian Metro Gay!