Why I am quite?

 Being reader of my blog you guyz must be wondering that why I am so much quite on one burning issue? Why I am not writing much on section 377 and laws. Why voice of my ink is not rebellious but rather humorous. The thing is behind the screen of laptop and blog page me too scared, worried and heartbroken. But I chose to keep writing positive side.

   When I started writing this blog I was confused, hopeful Indian gay man in his early 20s. I was seeing lots of problems around me, lots of heart breaks, lots of tears and lots of waiting. I too was going through some of those sufferings. But I had something in my heart that pulled me out of that darkness. It was hope.

I always believed that to change any situation for better all you need is hope. Without hope is nothing possible. And hence by understanding hope and sewing seeds of it in my heart I decided to look at brighter side. I decided to share my positive, humorous thoughts with fellow gay men like me. I starting this blog to express my inner side and also spread some positive vibes in gay society. And I did it by writing post that practically makes difference. It was simple poem in Hindi that wrote about simple guy's feelings made few readers smile, it was book review about a gay stories collection that gave info to other gays about new gay book and it was heart touching post about how closeted gays can approach their mothers towards coming out to made huge applaud.  I wrote simple but important things that happens in every day life of normal gay guy like me.

 Being an Indian gay guy I am not a super popular, super hot young dude who has lots of female friends and whose life is party every night. Living that life is not wrong but having that life should not be necessary.  Some people think that being normal gay means living that popular, happening life. If you are not living that then you are not normal. I wanted to change this thinking of people and tell them that it is ok if you are reading book at late night, it is ok if you are spending day alone and it is ok if you have some problems. Having problem is not wrong but if you are not celebrating good from problems then it is wrong. And this is what I shared through my blog. I am sharing positive hopes through my blog.

  Yes I am very much scared but if I decide to pamper that feeling then I am not doing any good.I want to have a good, free, loving, respected life and I will have that. I don't know how but I know I will have that. It is a hope in my heart that is telling me this.

I am quite means it is not that I don't care but because I have hope in my heart.

Why We Need Indian Language Version of Prayers For Bobby.

Even if we take voice of best Bollywood actress to dub Sigourney Weavers's dialogues we cannot dub her charisma. I don't wanna compare between Hollywood and Bollywood here. Today I am writing this post to share very sensitive point. It's on spreading right information about homosexuality. 

No matter how much we have advanced our English language but still we haven't lost that room of comfort for mother tongue in our heart and so our parents. Need not to surprise if most of ours' parents are not well versed in English & still prefer Bollywood movies over watching Avatar in 3D or Schindler's list. 

When I first saw Prayers For Bobby it touched my heart and I did cried at the end of the movie. It was marvelous presentation of problems of a gay man living in religious family and transition of a religious mother into open minded mother of all, a true story indeed. Sigourney Weaver was magnificent. No doubt about that! Ryan Kelley did the excellent Bobby. Hats off to director Russel Mulcachy for presenting realistic image of gays in media. Every gay man who has seen that movie really appreciated and liked that movie, and so their good straight friends too. This movie is a perfect eye opener.

We cannot expect such movie in Bollywood yet. But this is a must watch for those who are gay and those who are related to gays. It is an eye opener for those who do not understand what homosexuality really is. It is a sympathetic movie that portrays a mother in center stage. Whole movie moves around a mother of a gay man. Any mother who has a gay son can relate herself to the reluctant but caring mother in the movie. It is a great resource which will help families to understand their kids and accept them. 

But it is in English. Most of Indian Gay's parents can understand English and they often watch English movies but this is not enough. Still there is huge number of parents who don't understand English or they understand North American English accent. So for them, seeing movie like Prayers for Bobby will not leave the enough impact on parents. Listening dialogues in Hindi or any other Indian language will make them understand the situation in movie more clearly. It will help them to relate with the characters on the movie which will later turn into empathy. Once they are emotionally connected with the characters, they can feel their pain, suffering and analyze the situation from different angle. No parents would want their children to suffer, once they understood their child's suffering, that could change their mind.

Since in last several years LGBT movements has soared in India and many initiatives are getting taken by LGBT groups to spread right awareness of homosexuality in parents of LGBT people. They are doing excellent job towards bringing parents and gays closer. But if we could present movies like Prayers for Bobby to parents in the Indian languages it will really leave the great impact on parents.

There are so many great movies “Mambo Italiano”, “Chicken Tikka Masala”, “Touch Of Pink” and list goes on. If we could present it to parents in Indian languages and make them watch and understand it, it will be a really great effort.

This is my honest thought, thought to share with you. Think about it guys.

Why an Indian Gay Men (& even straight men too) Should Not Go Crazy Behind Diet!

 Before all those technical, medical, dietary vocabulary starts gathering in your mind I want to say that, calm down guys. This is not gonna be like regular post where self-proclaimed nutritionist preaches about fitness and health.

 In fact I am gonna say opposite. Why we should not get obsessed with diet and miss one of the greatest pleasures of life. I know diets is important, it keeps you fit, body in temple and all those punchlines I know. But after seeing all my diet obsessed friend I see that they are avoiding one of the most delicious foods and drinks and missing the fun. I know we all wanna look good, fine and have that hot dashing personality and we all work towards it every day by shedding litres of sweat in the gym. We all take those expensive gym memberships and post pics on FB from. I too have a gym membership where I go and workout regularly and always adore muscular improvement of my body. But is that all?

 Seeing expanded big muscles makes you feel touch the sky and gives your eyes pleasure but what about other organs? What about nose that wanna smell great recipes and tongue that wanna embrace taste of enormously delicious recipes. What will replace this joy? Few more likes on facebook? Life is short and heavily unpredictable, relationships are heavily getting fragile and nothing is long lastingly reliable. If this was less then everyday new health problems are occurring. Every month health magazine writes side effects of some vegetable and after googling about it  you shall find benefits of same vegetable on other website. So if every food has its own set of advantages and disadvantages why should we sacrifice the taste of palate and avoid it just because some magazine said so? If you are committed to your gym then no food item can build extra layer of fats on your tummy and no ingredient can still those muscles from your biceps.

  As Elizabeth Gilbert wrote in Eat, Pray & Love; no guy is gonna notice that extra pound on your body once he sees you naked, all he is gonna see that is you are naked. I am not saying here that stops gyming, stop diet and be fat. No! All I want to say that be slow, don’t get obsessed with any new trend. It is your life and only you are gonna fill it with beautiful or awful experiences. Our country has beautiful delicacies and so other countries too. Enjoy that food, that variety and satiate your tongue. Those temporary abs gained after following strict diet does not guarantee genuinely romantic boyfriend but that one plate of Pani-Puri or Samosa-Chat definitely guarantees good time with friends and some permanent good memories for future.  Those big muscles gained after meal replacement protein shake does give happiness but it is not as high as enjoying parathas with ghee at weekly family reunion dinner.  

 At the end all that matters is happiness and relationships with people in life. At the end only remain is memories. So guys make some good memories for future. Let this food be the reason to create them. Definitely do hard gymind, diet but don’t go crazy behind it and don’t give distance to food. Who knows tomorrow by some reason you get restricted to eat certain item for life? Before that have it and enjoy it. 

Satiating desire of heart is not in your hands but at least satiating hunger for taste is in your plate. So grab it :)