I know it is lot of happening out there in mainstream world.
There’s a lot of political, economic and psychological unpredictability. These
things do affect our normal lives and our relationships. People involved in
relationship are the main pillars of relationsip. So their personalities, moods
and behaviour does leave direct effect on relation and on the other person
involved in it. If you see around, break
ups have become more frequent and inevitable part of everyone’s life. People
are leaving their partners, they don’t want to be in relationship why? Reasons
could be so many but the main bottom line of those reasons could be they are
not happy with what they have and may be they are expecting something different
much better partner than they presently have.
Remember those school
days when our parents would meet our teachers after the results of exams and
ask them to tell us the scope of improvement in that subject so that next time
we will get more marks in exam? I think even in this age we should do this
thing. I am not asking to talk to newly become ex and beg to hear flaws but to
introspect ourselves and take account of things that came to us in that
relationship. We should ask a question
to ourselves that, ‘it is fine now that that guy has gone but how I feel now?
Am I still confident and holding myself up?’ ‘Am I regretting?’ ‘Did I put all
my best to save this relationship’ ‘Where should I be putting my more focus
now? Job? Parents? Health? Savings?’
They say don’t dwell in the past but these few questions you
have to ask yourself. And see what kind of answers you receive from them, positive
or negative?
Few years back in one British newspaper an article came saying
after certain number of heartbreaks you get your soul mate. So in this case can
we say that these certain heart brakes makes you more mature and deserving
candidate in the race of getting “that special one”? If the answer is yes then
it can be said that every relationship teaches you something. But also it tests
you. Eastern philosophies say that sacrifice is the key base of any
relationship. Everyone who is into relationship sacrifices something towards
it. These sacrifices could not be monetary only, they are of different kinds.
Hence while doing
these sacrifices a person also swallows lot of patience. Patience is very
difficult thing to digest. While doing these all these things slowly you
realize that your cycle has turned into testing and the yesterday’s sweet
sugary relationship has suddenly turned up into a tricky fragile test of
patience, sacrifice and quest of seeking true desire of heart. Sometimes it
become difficult, intolerable and you feel like throwing all these things off,
get rid of the bond and be free again.
But then guess what ? Suddenly love of life, does something or say
something or even look at you with those lovely eyes and all dilemmas and
urging vanishes in the minute and all you find yourself on lovely land of love
with your boyfriend.
The heart says YES! This is the reason worth struggling for,
I can bear thousand bad days in office just to see him in the evening. I love him and he loves me and I am so happy
in this relationship.
The small bond name relationship suddenly become source of
living and food for soul and all those teachings earned from introspection and
tests given in relationship starts making sense.
Relationship teaches us great thing by taking great tests.
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