Book Review: Quarantine

Book Review: Quarantine

No matter how beautiful words you might come across about this book in review pages, this is a simple straightforward review from gay living in India for gays living in India!

Being an Indian Gay, reading Quarantine was different experience for me. Where the inner saga of acceptance, identity & coming out to parents ends from there stories of Quarantine begins.

This is the book which would keep glued those homosexual men who are eager to explore further shades of gay life or have already experienced them. Far ahead than crushes, love, heart brakes & lust, Rahul Mehta’s book gives you the narration of events that happens in matured gay phase of life. These are stories of Gay & Non Gay things happening around gay men.

The first thing I would appreciate about this book is its fabulous Pink cover which softens the mood & makes it handier. 9 stories are of 9 second generation Indian origin gay men living in USA. Many of them are having partners few of them are single. More or less considerable presence of family characters in stories gives more Indian-ness to the plot. Although it is first book of author, narration is quite good but characters do not get more familiar while reading due to less expressive presentation of characters. At one point of time you will feel that all stories have happened to a single guy in different college years.

Last 3 stories are holding almost half of the pages of book. Author does have successfully presented few issues which Indian readers would feel some attachment with but as I said above unclear expression of characters & limited narration on few events will not make you hold or emphasize with story nor character.

This is a perfect book for gay men in 30s when they have done with career, relations, understood all complexities of gay life & have enough time to talk to people like them. I am not saying all characters in book are in 30s but Indian readers of 20s would find it too mature.

For the points I shall give 2/5. 

Why Mom of Every Indian GAY Boy MUST Loosen Her Kitchen Apron?

(Most Important things you need to do before coming out to her)

I know very few or almost no moms are going to read this but all those gay boys who are reading this post to them I will say guys read this with cool mind, this is something very serious.

When it comes to mom we have that sweet sugary merrily figure appears in our minds who is either wanna feed us food all the time or stop us from eating everything all the time. She could be kind soft in books but in real Indian urban lives mothers do holds some portion of stiffness in their attitude which they have earned by peeling potatoes for our aloo parathas in kitchen for years. They would listen to our talks but they will always keep clung bunch of rigidity in their attitude just like they keep wearing that kitchen apron @ the time we are cooking Maggie on our own. This is their nature, precaution, idea about “could be events”, over confidence whatever u wanna name it you can name it but you cannot ignore that it is their reluctant nature towards our ideas, talks, change proposals or any sort of deeds.

So when for a 2 minutes Maggie moms do not loosen themselves how they would accept about their son’s real orientation? Now before few of you starts proving abut you rmom’s wise mentality & your family’s openness I shall make clear one thing that I am talking this about normal middle class Indian gay boys who are still not open to their family because they know their parents would not be able to understand it or if understood then not be able to handle it.

It is very very important for boys to not hide their orientation from their parents but at a same time they must maintain the balance and harmony in house. If their coming out is going to give heart attack to their mom or going to trap them in forced marriage then they must wait for the right time. But this “right time” is also not specifically predefined or precisely marked on calendar. It is you only who have to develop the idea, understanding in your mother’s mind. It is really necessary to form that idea of “right of living life on own wish” in her mind. Because many Indian moms are highly spiritual. If they have not sets of intellectual thoughts in their mind then they would never embrace the truth even after your coming out and start praying to god to turn you straight and get u married to the “sidhi sadhi ladki” till the last pooja of their lives.
So guys no matter how good English we throw outside, how big talks we spray out but @ the home moms are the same decades old moms who really do not know anything about gayism for her it’s like curable disease or temporary erectile disability only. She doesn’t know that being GAY is more of heart rather than only physical needs. They holds big bunch of bad ideas about gay people which cannot be removed by simply saying “Mom I am GAY”. That is why I am saying that every mom of gay boy must loosen her apron of reluctant & prejudiced thoughts and must embrace the reality.


How she can do it? Hmm check my thoughts,


This big block must be dissolved rather than removing it. Because more u oppose her structural thoughts more she is going to resist you. So this process of dissolving her wrong thoughts must be done slowly & so it demands more time. The most important thing in this process is it must be done and finished before you coming out to her. You can say it will give her basic introduction to gayism which she will also observe and not resist it because by then she would be having secure feeling in her mind that “MY son is NOT gay” and so she won’t resist these observations as long as you r not involved in it (in her mind).

Then next step is to build that confidence in her mind! For mom son will always be a kid so she always thinks that my son needs me. Which is unfortunately not false in many cases so guys do your house work more properly. Learn cooking from her, spend extra time at home fixing leak tap, leaking sink, cleaning furniture & doing other stuffs. Create that image of dependable Super Boy in her mind, create that circle of reliability. So she will also accept that you can live on your own and if not Maggie then at least you can cook daal khichdi when you are sick in her absence :) When U will come out she will have that confidence that U can live on Ur own.

Opening the windows does not bring light only in but it also brings fresh air too. Change is universal law and give that law to her. Give her some extra time for her hobbies, art, mehendi classes, book shop, theatres, kaththak shows, dance shows. Let her re-live her freedom ad love it. Then only she could respect and recognize your need for freedom & so your wishes also.

Introduce her to few of your straight acting decent gay friends and do tell her that they are gay. It will create a good image about gays In her mind, if not clear the wrong perceptions at least for sure

These things will be like a small introduction to gayism to Indian moms. I not guarantee that they would accept it whole heartedly but it will reduce the stroke she would be getting. So guys think about it, share your thoughts, write comments & stay tuned!
Love,

Indian Metro GAY
@IndianMetroGAY

Why I want to Kiss a MAN?

....because few feelings cannot be expressed in works & they should not be.

The b est way to convey these feelings is Kiss. I wanna Kissa man & tell him what I feel for him.

On the Cheek - I Miss You

On the Hand - I am Yours

On the Neck - I Want You

On the Forehead - I Care 4 U

On the Lips - I LOVE YOU

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Some facts of GAY life.

Some facts of GAY LIFE

1 Friends is the only relationship which stay forever

2 But bottoms, sissy & queens can never be friends of anybody so married bisexual men

3 In gay man's life 30 is 40

4 Here everyone is same but it is their idea about themselves in their mind which are different.

5 Love is most beautiful thing in the world till break up, after that it's worst accident

6 If in a 1st conversation guy is saying "I have many friends" or similar, it means he doesn't have friends at all, he is a guy who cannot respect a human standing next to him.

7 The real gay who really holds good friends will always acts as caring big brother to every one & won't blow trumpet.

8 The performance of gay man in bed is inversely proportional to his looks, physique, attitude & money.

9 Most kind hearted, honest, reliable gay men are good listeners.

10 If a guy doesn't having a pic in pro doesn't mean that he is ugly. He could be the next supermodel in fact.

Few Double Standard Young Gay men. (who wanna say only one thing that He is not a GAY)

When you are in mid twenties, happy with your gay sexual orientation, straight acting & love your life then it does not mean that you will get accepted by all men from gay community.

In gay community also many men are holding some different views of life. For them being happy with gay orientation in your mid twenties must not be reflected in your behaviour with others. It is not only about straight acting behavior, it's about many to do & not to do things.

In the name of maturity many gay young Indian men are diverting their & other's mind by throwing strange expectations. They want a man to be very very straight acting, rigid, ruthless, rude in his attitude. He should not be talking about good things or his lost things. He should not be sentimental. all he should speak is money, career & plans by keeping quite.

On your every good comment they will declare you as a weak sentimental fool. They criticise you on your each & every move. All it is a strange hypocritical double standard within Gay group.

Have you guys come across such people? What is this? Is it a frustration coated in the name of acceptance of "reality"? If it is, then why they can't accept other person as he/she is?

Crushes, Huggs & Single pair of leg in bed - 3 big hitches of single life.

Someone has said right. Best part of sex is play before action and talks after the action. Just like that worst parts in single life are near to the love & sex. These are the three gooie goodie looking cactus you should be always careful of.

Crush (Crazy mouse in the underwear)
I still remember the day when first time I saw "him" and instantly fail in love with him.Crushes makes u crazy. It makes u feel standing naked into the office pantry, no matter how people are reacting, laughing on you, you just wanna stay stark naked and feel the so called "liberty". In realistic world this liberty is callled as love, but hold on this love & liberty need not to be the divine Love @ first sight. It could be worsen than that. If it is prolonging wthout getting the clue then it is like having a crazy mouse in your underwear. It will make you feel restless, lose your concentration, work, food, diet & eventually your health! After this it wll start series of further calamities. SO guy stay away from this syndrome.


Huggs (Hungry torso is in the air)
the next calamity in the row is itch for having an hugg.U see him, U feel him & now U wanna have him. U wanna be with that guy, talk to him, walk with talk letting each other's arms brushed. Talk talk talk till the day ends and you get back to your house. And just before taking the bus you get that strong urge of feeling his warm presence even close, close to your torso. You want to hold his tough arms and just be in his arms. Hold on guys we are in India and moreover in USA also gays don't do this in public. If we do so, who knows next day U will see ur pic in Times of India's article on mushrooming gay relationships in India.Need not to say a long drama at home, office, club & on facebook after that. So control that urge. Don't hugg him in public.

Single pair of leg (all is bad that ends bad)
U spend a whole long bad day in office. In the company of irritating cricket fans who screams on the fours, sixer & wickets. U do a big work in the office (need not to ask handle creepy boss). Remind and feel bad about ur exe and old relationships. after this whole long saga when u reach home and rest on your bed (which is actually your stadium of dreams since u r single, go for sleep and find only 2 legs in the bed. Those are yours. You didn't find any single pair of leg to rest ur heels upon. You dis not find some one else's toe to play with and hook with. A ll alone in bed you rubb ur legs on the silky bed sheet and crave for that new crush. So here you starts feeling need of the crush again and this turns into the unending cycle.

So guys these are the three biggest problems you will see in single life. These problems starts with love. I am not against love but showing the blueish side of love. Think about it.

Being “Choosy”

Mollita, my best gay friend and beloved friend cum sister could never found any cons in me except my choosy behavior. She thinks that I am dam choosy and it’s bad. But I think what’s wrong in being choosy?

So what if I have left many good looking boys unanswered till today and  turned down many proposal I was not choosy  with them they just were not like me. I am 25, single, decent in the big city, well settled and still I am single. Mollita just can’t take it. She wants to see me with very next available good English speaking Indian guy. She always counted my fault of being too choosy and showed many possibilities which would had came true if I hadn’t rejected last guy. Off course this is what she thinks about me. But what I see in me is I am happy and I like it, I love it in fact. And why I could get this happiness despite being single because I am choosy. It’s nothing wrong is hoping for higher things when you can offer it’s equal return. If I am expecting a very handsome, sweet, lovely guy then I also have many things in my closet to offer him. He will get freaked out my juicy combination of looks, body and heart. I am a dam romantic person I can offer him enormous lovely surprise an unending different ways to make love.

I have all this with me. So I don’t mind when people call me choosy. Because I know I am not choosy. I am looking something equal in fact.