Brother
One word is hot enough to make anybody feel the warmth of beach sand that he felt in his summer vacations of childhood with his brother. One word strong enough to remind the big punch he gave to his classmate in 3rd grade when classmate said that his brother is not as strong as Superman. It will remind anybody that clashes happened over batting, video game, cycling and many other funs. In a one moment this word will put all the best moments of your life in front of your eyes.
People like us also share that sweeter bitter relationships with brothers like any other straight guy does. In some brotherhood relationships brothers are best friends and in some relationships brothers are like real foes. There are so many factors responsible for behaviors of brothers towards each other. Age gap is the biggest factor, you might have observed that brothers with higher age gaps does not feel any special friendship in between them moreover it is like "Hi, Hello only" kind of relationship. Brothers with less age gap get various kinds of behaviors towards each other. This kind of brother relationships are very vibrant than any other brother relationships.
Absence of love & care of a man in childhood is common thing in many gay men. Situation becomes worse if the boy is eldest child & mother is either too possessive or passive. In this case many male children starts imagining about an heroic man figure in their day dreams who loves them. Out of such kind of children some see this figure as their big brother, while other still keep imaging that as a father, uncle, teacher it could be anybody. So when a child imagines a good looking, caring, happy guy actually it seeks a love. It is love only that the child is seeking at that phase of his childhood. Many gays have enjoyed doing this in their childhood. But the purpose of this imagination was only to feel the love, care & affection which they did not got from their father. Unequal treatment to children also could be the reason for this kind of imaginations.
In someone's childhood his father dedicatedly worshiped his younger sibling since younger sibling was always topping exams of schools & all the cultural & sports events. So he too. But then he decided to put his 5 year old son apart & chose his 3 year old son to pamper like heaven just because his 3 year old son was youngest in the family. Father' highly appreciated treatment to his younger brother did nothing but ruined their brotherhood. His younger brother started considering himself so "great" that he appeared inferior in front of younger brother & became the object of his shame. Indeed younger brother was always better than him in exam scores and friends but that took his younger brother away from him, to whom he always wanted to love like any Santa Claus would love to every child on Christmas. he wanted to pamper him, buy him toys, chocolates, but younger brother never accepted that. And slowly that distance started increasing and two brothers landed on different shores of river, who were floating together but never matched. In those painful days his imaginary elder brother was the only shoulder he had to put his head on his shoulders and speak all those funny things which he always wanted to discuss with his little brother & father. like,
"How long it will take for us to reach moon?"
"Is it true that earth is going to doom next year?"
"Monty was telling that in back ranches one big old ghost is staying with his fog?"
"What gift I will gift to momma on her next birthday?"
"To whom I am gonna invite on my this birthday?"
"Why Pinky cries very often?"
and many more.
When he was asking all these questions, that guy's eyes were stared at his eyes & that big brother was smiling happily. He just loved that look. This is the only thing he really wanted from his dad. He was very free & secure in his big brother's arms, he was confident that big brother is not going to slap him on next question or gonna ask me him finish my homework. It was a wonderful timing just two of them & all the gossips of play ground.
Slowly he started imitating the habits, body language & acts of his elder brother. He wanted to be like him, COMPLETE! He started helping other, he became good listener, he never took a back foot in volunteering any work. He was patient enough to wait for next man to finish and courteous enough to reply honestly. Thank you, please, my pleasure became the regular words in his conversation and one day he found that he has gotten a big shoulder on whom anybody can put his/her head and cry. This was all because of his elder brother. Slowly he was turned into his elder brother. After coming to know about his orientation he stopped seeing elder brother frequently.
Many men like us stops stop these fantasies in later years of 20s. Relationships, breakups, work pressure could be the reasons. But the respect for the relation of brother, brother hood remains the same. for a gay man coming out to his straight brother is not that easy. Most of my friends lost the friendly relations with their brothers, with very few friends the situation happened other way of pole. Those friends experienced the best & most secured days of their gay life. Many straight people thinks that a gay would not mind hitting his brother also. This is as pathetic as a straight man hitting his female siblings. It is humiliating experience. SO I have a sincerely request to all the straight people reading this blog that NEVER ask such stupid questions to Gay man. In fact gays always holds better control on their desires than straight men. Brother is the person to whom we always looks after dad. He is a man on whom we can trust blindly and ask him to do any work or and favor.
At the end of this post I will say brotherhood is one of the most beautiful relationships. It is a longest journey that any man doesn't spends with his/her parents or a spouse even. So better understand the Do's & Don'ts of this relationships & start a longest happy journey with the best fellow traveler.
One word is hot enough to make anybody feel the warmth of beach sand that he felt in his summer vacations of childhood with his brother. One word strong enough to remind the big punch he gave to his classmate in 3rd grade when classmate said that his brother is not as strong as Superman. It will remind anybody that clashes happened over batting, video game, cycling and many other funs. In a one moment this word will put all the best moments of your life in front of your eyes.
People like us also share that sweeter bitter relationships with brothers like any other straight guy does. In some brotherhood relationships brothers are best friends and in some relationships brothers are like real foes. There are so many factors responsible for behaviors of brothers towards each other. Age gap is the biggest factor, you might have observed that brothers with higher age gaps does not feel any special friendship in between them moreover it is like "Hi, Hello only" kind of relationship. Brothers with less age gap get various kinds of behaviors towards each other. This kind of brother relationships are very vibrant than any other brother relationships.
Absence of love & care of a man in childhood is common thing in many gay men. Situation becomes worse if the boy is eldest child & mother is either too possessive or passive. In this case many male children starts imagining about an heroic man figure in their day dreams who loves them. Out of such kind of children some see this figure as their big brother, while other still keep imaging that as a father, uncle, teacher it could be anybody. So when a child imagines a good looking, caring, happy guy actually it seeks a love. It is love only that the child is seeking at that phase of his childhood. Many gays have enjoyed doing this in their childhood. But the purpose of this imagination was only to feel the love, care & affection which they did not got from their father. Unequal treatment to children also could be the reason for this kind of imaginations.
In someone's childhood his father dedicatedly worshiped his younger sibling since younger sibling was always topping exams of schools & all the cultural & sports events. So he too. But then he decided to put his 5 year old son apart & chose his 3 year old son to pamper like heaven just because his 3 year old son was youngest in the family. Father' highly appreciated treatment to his younger brother did nothing but ruined their brotherhood. His younger brother started considering himself so "great" that he appeared inferior in front of younger brother & became the object of his shame. Indeed younger brother was always better than him in exam scores and friends but that took his younger brother away from him, to whom he always wanted to love like any Santa Claus would love to every child on Christmas. he wanted to pamper him, buy him toys, chocolates, but younger brother never accepted that. And slowly that distance started increasing and two brothers landed on different shores of river, who were floating together but never matched. In those painful days his imaginary elder brother was the only shoulder he had to put his head on his shoulders and speak all those funny things which he always wanted to discuss with his little brother & father. like,
"How long it will take for us to reach moon?"
"Is it true that earth is going to doom next year?"
"Monty was telling that in back ranches one big old ghost is staying with his fog?"
"What gift I will gift to momma on her next birthday?"
"To whom I am gonna invite on my this birthday?"
"Why Pinky cries very often?"
and many more.
When he was asking all these questions, that guy's eyes were stared at his eyes & that big brother was smiling happily. He just loved that look. This is the only thing he really wanted from his dad. He was very free & secure in his big brother's arms, he was confident that big brother is not going to slap him on next question or gonna ask me him finish my homework. It was a wonderful timing just two of them & all the gossips of play ground.
Slowly he started imitating the habits, body language & acts of his elder brother. He wanted to be like him, COMPLETE! He started helping other, he became good listener, he never took a back foot in volunteering any work. He was patient enough to wait for next man to finish and courteous enough to reply honestly. Thank you, please, my pleasure became the regular words in his conversation and one day he found that he has gotten a big shoulder on whom anybody can put his/her head and cry. This was all because of his elder brother. Slowly he was turned into his elder brother. After coming to know about his orientation he stopped seeing elder brother frequently.
Many men like us stops stop these fantasies in later years of 20s. Relationships, breakups, work pressure could be the reasons. But the respect for the relation of brother, brother hood remains the same. for a gay man coming out to his straight brother is not that easy. Most of my friends lost the friendly relations with their brothers, with very few friends the situation happened other way of pole. Those friends experienced the best & most secured days of their gay life. Many straight people thinks that a gay would not mind hitting his brother also. This is as pathetic as a straight man hitting his female siblings. It is humiliating experience. SO I have a sincerely request to all the straight people reading this blog that NEVER ask such stupid questions to Gay man. In fact gays always holds better control on their desires than straight men. Brother is the person to whom we always looks after dad. He is a man on whom we can trust blindly and ask him to do any work or and favor.
At the end of this post I will say brotherhood is one of the most beautiful relationships. It is a longest journey that any man doesn't spends with his/her parents or a spouse even. So better understand the Do's & Don'ts of this relationships & start a longest happy journey with the best fellow traveler.
